Men in our lives

Hello everyone;
I woke up this morning and a thought came to me, what if a question arises about relationships. It can be awkward and worrying to a guy if you don't give him all the details. This dons't just apply to boyfriends, fiance's, and husbands, we can't forget our fathers!
My own father is dead set against me telling him some good solid information, which makes me feel like I'm wrong. If your like me and you strive to always be dad's littlegirl, making him proud of you then you know the pressure I'm talking about. I lucked out with my boyfirend Jay, I thank God for him everyday. He was very hesitant at first, he asked few questions, and all he could think about was me getting hurt or me dying. i encouraged him to come to the HBOC conference with me in November, and at the end of that long day, he turned to me and said "I'm ready for anything." You need to ahve a moment like that It's truly amazing and comforting. Now if my dad would only see that I'm being proactive, and not be blinded by the outter apreance that I'm considering body altering proceedures for what may never happen, or being paranoid. Acording to him everyone has a "gene" he's right but I'm sure that if he had a gene such as BRCA 1 & 2, he'd do the smae thing as I'm doing. sometime I wonder if maybe his angry front is just a way to hide his fears, and maybe he feels guilty in a way that he can't protect me, and in a state of powerlessness he uses angry as a source of strength, and i know that he will always pictures me as the happy healthy little baby girl he held back in May 1989.
If you have a dad like mine, maybe the best thing is not to talk to him about it, just do everything you can to protect yourself, and when the time comes for the surgery's (if you chose to do them) then that can be the time.
The men in our lives are interested in our well being, and in defence they may put on a angry stance or an avoidance front, but know that deep down they love you and your decisions are ultimatly yours.
Love yourself and be loved that is the road to happiness.